Here's how complicated things can get ........
I told lies.. I dont believe everyone on the earth tells only truth..
We had to tell our dearest people some things .. which we never expect to tell them, due to some situations in life ..
Things happen both good and bad... and no matter what happens friends are those who stick with you ( or may be I thought so) ...
I had to say somethings which I shouldn't to some of my close friends due to certain situations in life .. one day they came to know that truth .. that I lied .. through some third person.. ( I wonder who can that be whoz so interested in digging out my life) and no one spoke a word...
Days, months and year passed may be.. they stopped speaking with me.. I thought may be there are busy with their works.. I call people very rarely and when I called them and they spoke for 5 mins or so and hung up the call..
One fine evening, I started chatting with one of them.. and all of a sudden everything cameout from him .. he said these words " why did you make a fool of us ".. "why didnt tell us even after you know that we knew it " .. " we were so hurt and broke " ....
oh yeah I was shocked .. I didnt believe at first that these "friends" of mine knew it and they didnt take a chance to speak out .. I dint even think that they would know the "lie" I told them because hardly 2 people knew it and they can understand why I told it and never ever speak vth these people to tell them about my lie :) ...
I accept and I regret that I had made mistakes.. but I took my chances to get away from something very bad in my life ... and I knew I did wrong.. and I did somethings which I regret till day and I had so many other things in life going .. that I totally forgot about this lie ...
I knew every person have a different prospective for approaching the issue... but staying silent ( I feel ) is not the right way...
They thought that I said a lie to save my neck and they waited for me to tell them the truth .. I accept they have the right to think like that ... but being my friends and knowing me for awhile is something more than judging me by listening to others words ... if they would like to really know why I lied about an issue.. they could have asked me .. I would have told them everything and tell them the situation that lead me to lie .. but they chose to be silent and above all didnt even speak with me ...
I just then realized how important "speech" is .. and everything depends on how you think ..
A single call and conversation could have wiped out all the issues b/n us but .. my bad that they chose not to speak and today out of all vain .. I feel so bad and sad .. If it were I , I would have confronted them the next minute I knew it .. or on second thought would have placed myself in my friend's shoes .....
When you beleive someone is so important to you and something bad happens b/n you both .. try to solve the issue ... everything will work out if we speak out and more complex things become easy if you speak out.. speech is the wonderful thing god gifted us with and we should solve anything by speaking rather than remaining silent.. its a pain to your heart and the other person's heart too.. after all remember we became friends when we spoke and shared different things in life ... no matter what you are and where you are .. remember you are friends and friends need to understand and figure out a way to escape all the difficult times in life ..
You dont need an explanation from friends .. they have no regrets .. for me thats friendship ..
life is not easy and it will never be .. no matter how situations turn out and no matter what people say about your friend .. remember your friend needs you ... everything happens for a reason and every reason should be reasonable :)
If someone speaks something about ur friends show them your middle finger :)
come back to your friend speak with them and everything should work out great !!
Speech is the only thing which make us quite different from other animals in the world :)
Anyways again its all me .. but I would say to everyone the same thing.. if you think you will miss something in life if you don't speak with a friend.. no matter they did to you, , may be lied to you or didnt share very imp thing in their life to you or fought with you ... in fact what ever they do to you .. dont sit back.. go out and speak .. try to know them better and figure out a way to resolve the issue ... if you cant change them .. remember to let go .. mistakes happen .. but think twice is the mistake worth breaking a friendship ...
But again ... "its just me"
Life is not complex. We are complex. Life is simple, and the simple thing is the right thing.
- Oscar Wilde
2 comments:
I hope you've overcome the pain... And you're absolutely right, there's nothing open communication cannot resolve!
Well thats all we have got to do ...
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